There are times when I wish I could reach out and give women a big hug. Today is one of those days. You see we are all so messed up from our mesh complications and sadly for many of us it has been years in the making. What is always so hard for me is the fact that so many more women are being injured from bladder sling mesh every day and yet many more are suffering from long term complications and have no clue. No one is minding the store and no matter how hard I try I cannot stop the flow of the tears and pain that medical mesh can cause. There are times I want to scream at the world “Wake up, this is happening all over the world and women are being made handicapped because of these products.” We seem to be ignored and lost in a quagmire of other world issues and no one is hearing our voices. That is not good enough!
Today I want to tell you about how it is to go through complete mesh removal with so much hope and then wake up with issues from the past and perhaps more due to the downhill of our immune systems. We all go through it. We have to hang in for so long just to get it out and the damage may be permanent. However, never give up! The body is amazing in how it can recover and a lot has to do with your mental state and how you tackle your life.
Please understand that what has been done to us cannot be undone instantly. The longer mesh is in the longer the recovery and YOU HAVE TO TAKE CONTROL to try to get well. Even if it has only been in you for a year, you will still need to take charge and do whatever you can to help yourself because no one else will do it for you or for me.
Recovery is a process. We all know about the baby blues and accept that the body has to come back after childbirth. For some women it takes a lot more time and help. WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT. Doctors however do not view us that way so we have to do things we may never otherwise think of. THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX.
There are no guarantees with mesh removal. No one not even God can guarantee you will be well again. BUT if you give up and give in to accepting you will never get well then you won’t get well. It really is that simple.
FIRST HAVE A DAM GOOD CRY! It’s okay to feel that emotion. THEN GET BLOODY ANGRY! It’s okay to feel that too. We are human. THEN GET BUSY AND DO SOMETHING TO HELP YOU. We have been duped, lied to and ignored. But regardless of what has happened to us, we have to get up and fight. Not immediately. You have to get well slowly. When family or friends say to you stupid things like “I thought you should be up and running now it is out of you” get bloody mad! They have no clue what it is like to be ripped apart in their organs and if they don’t get it, scream until they do. Don’t hide from it. Don’t cower in the corner and let them get away with this. They need to be educated too.
What you have had is major surgery of the worse kind. Mesh has been ripped from every part of your internal organs and has been untangled from muscles and nerves. It is a HELL surgery and they NEED TO KNOW your suffering. You won’t bounce back in a week and be normal like they think you should be. It will take months and maybe longer!
So look at your situation and try to figure out what you can do. For me it was the fact that I would rather spend all the money I can muster on supplements and things that could help me improve and I have written many blog about this fact. I have lived through other bad times and got through them with this kind of thinking.
Your immune system has been sorely attacked and if you have taken many antibiotics you have to fight a good fight with out of box thinking. Start reading. Start learning. Get up and make a change whether it be before or after removal surgery. In the past I won the war on what has happened to me and now I do the same. Your immune system will need rebooting. Try something new. Here are some links for you to start a new education.
Have you thought about something like Rei-Shi mushrooms? When I was very ill four years ago from an allergic reaction to a prescription drug I did exactly that.
If you decide to take this, take this product too. http://www.umm.edu/altmed/articles/astragalus-000223.htm
Now start your own learning process. These things may sound weird but they have been using them for centuries in other countries and they do work. DO WHATEVER YOU CAN TO HELP YOUR BODY HEAL. I took both of these for a year after I was ill from that drug. I don’t care what you do, but do something to give yourself a fighting chance at a new life. Not the old you, but the new you. You deserve it!
I know I cannot give you a hug on your bad day, so this is my virtual hug. Information!